Divorce is a complicated process, also it’s easy for us as individuals to take the blame or shoulder most of what we feel. But when you’re going through this life-changing event with your intimate partner who has chosen not to be by your side anymore: don’t own any guilt! A marriage involves two responsible adults making choices; if one person wants out, they need only communicate their intentions clearly so their lifestyle can be handled accordingly without affecting other people involved in agreements made between them beforehand (or during).
The divorce process can be complex, but it’s important to remember that we have agency in this. We are not just victims of our circumstances – there is nothing wrong with us personally and/, nor does the shame or guilt surrounding your separation affect how things turn out for you legally! Talk openly with someone who cares! The first step towards changing any aspect about yourself during a legal split?
How to Overcome Shy and Guilt During Divorce
The Whys
Divorce is often seen by society at large as a failure. It’s hard not to take this personally, mainly when friends and family want you paired up with someone else or reinforce the belief that your marriage will last until death do they part, but what about those who have experienced divorce themselves? According to comedian Lewis Black, no good relationships end in the breakdown of an already existing bond–why then should we be so quick to conclude just because there was friction between two consenting adults?!
The feeling of shame and guilt during divorce can be relentless. Whether someone points the finger at you, or it’s the voice in your head commenting on how failed they think we feel, it adds to an already heavy load that is carried throughout this process by so many people who have been through something terrible together and come out okay (or not).
We can begin by being aware of our thoughts and feelings rather than letting them control us. We must first become the architect of our happiness before we allow others to mold it for their needs or desires – this includes understanding that shame does not have to be a part of shaping who you are!
The How’s
The hardest thing to forgive is yourself. When we fail, it’s easy for us to get angry with ourselves and stay that way without ignoring our actions or lack thereof in the past. Sometimes when you hurt someone else, they will extend a helping hand, but often, those same people refuse responsibility by pointing fingers at others while absolving themselves from any fault within an interaction; this isn’t right either! But if both parties work together as one unit, there might be hope because love can conquer all – even including self-love (even though sometimes it’s complicated).
There is no wrong talking with someone. If you need help, there are much resources available for people who want the opportunity of emotional support from others going through tough times as well themselves can find comfort in sharing their experiences and getting advice on how they should proceed forward when dealing with so personally sensitive issues like these types do not just affect one’s personal life but also has an impact towards other aspects such professional lives too!
The world can sometimes feel like it’s entirely against you, but don’t let that discourage your creativity. We all have time when we’re faced with difficult decisions, which may not always turn out the way we planned; however, this doesn’t make our choices any worse than anyone else’s! You need to stay positive because if there is one thing worth fighting for in life, other people also deserve happiness (even though sometimes getting them might require tough love).
